Welcome back from the holidays! But more on that later, because I’m too worked up on this topic to be able to concentrate on returning-from-holidays-niceties. There is a recent meme floating around in the flotsam of the great wide Internet that seems to be causing much inappropriate hilarity. Here’s the basic gist: A teenage girl […]
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Screwed up gender
I just returned home from a gay dance club. I like to go dancing – pounding music and blinky lights relax me, apparently, in a zen-like meditative kind of way. I make no apologies. Why the gay dance clubs in particular you might be asking yourself? (Or the answer is obvious, but I never assume…) […]
Sexting: What now?
So here’s my overview from last Thursday and Friday‘s conversation on sexting: Yes, it can be problematic, as can almost any form of communication. Texting is (currently) a ubiquitous communication method, and it doesn’t appear to be going anywhere anytime soon, so as parents, teachers, and caring adults, we have to make our peace with […]
The confluence of sex and alcohol
Earlier this week I was at SXSW Interactive, where I spoke about sex education online. I had a great time attending panels, networking, meeting people, and generally geeking out on social media and technology. During the off-hours, there were parties with lots of free alcohol that went on late, late, late into the night. I […]
Top Ten Things To Do Before You Have Sex: A list for teenagers
This is actually an old post. But I have had many requests for it again recently, and so thought it was worth bumping back up to the front for a day. And yes, this is something to show your teenagers if you think they’re thinking about starting to – or have already started – having […]
Sex as a responsibility – part 4
Today is Part 4 in this series on sex as a privilege for which there are responsibilities, and I will focus on the social responsibilities. You can read the introduction in part 1, the physical responsibilities in part 2, and the relational responsibilities in part 3. (As a side note, I am in the process […]
Sex as a responsibility – Part 3
Last week I wrote the first and the second parts of this series. I apologize for the longer-than-planned interlude before this, the third part! Here is my position: Having sex with another person is a privilege, and with privilege comes responsibility. Hence, having sex with another person necessitates a level of responsibility both to that […]
Sex as a responsibility – Part 1
On Friday I wrote about the importance of talking with teenagers about privilege vs. responsibility in sexual decision making. Here’s the first concrete step a parent or a teacher could ask a teenager to begin a conversation around this topic: “How is hooking up with someone different from, say, playing a computer game with someone?” […]
Parenting during Spring Break
Every March there are op-ed pieces, well researched articles, numerous blog posts, and general conversation about the horror that Spring Break has become. These articles describe a picture of heavy drinking and outrageous sexual extravagance by young women for the viewing pleasure (and later the direct physical pleasure) of young men. This year, the L.A. […]
Another Guest Blogger
(Written by guest blogger Wendy Harlowe.) Dr. Rayne has kindly let me weigh in as a guest blogger for the few days while she is at the SXSW Interactive conference; she knows one of my favorite topics in life is sex! I think this blog is playing a crucial role in the needed discussion of […]
