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Two interesting Times stories

Last week, the New York Times posted two stories I think are interesting enough to share with you. The first: You’re 16, You’re Beautiful and You’re a Voter is about the enfranchisement of teenagers. The basic gist is that teenagers do better when their rights and privileges are gained slowly over time. This has, for […]

Substance abuse and sexual abuse

Yesterday I spoke to a group of therapists at a residential treatment center for teenagers with substance abuse issues, the Phoenix House. One of the teenagers who was doing really well in the program gave me a tour of the facilities.  She told me, among other things, that most of the people were there voluntarily, […]

Venetian Chastity Belts

One of the places I went on vacation was Venice. It was truly amazing. The history was immense and fascinating. Venice survived as a city state for more than a thousand years. Sometimes Venice managed this through its location (great for trade, extremely difficult to attack), sometimes through it’s extreme wealth and penchant for gaudy […]

Your questions, my answers! (Part 2)

(Written by guest blogger JustAnotherTeen.)  “You seem very open, honest, and liberal, but you depict your parents as fairly rigid and conservative. How much do you think your parents impacted who you are and how did they do that? I like the person you present yourself as and I sense that you like yourself as […]

Your questions, my answers! (Part 1)

(Written by guest blogger JustAnotherTeen.)  Although this post was originally supposed to be for Friday, I got so many good questions on Wednesday that I did not feel they would all fit in one post. That said, I am still open to more questions for the rest of today or until about 10 PM Eastern […]

Sex Education, or the lack thereof:

(Written by guest blogger JustAnotherTeen.)  As many great teachers as my school may have, there is one that I absolutely cannot stand. I was supposed to take Health Education in my sophomore year and I really wish I had. Unfortunately it would not fit in my schedule till my junior year. The coach that left […]

My parents’ views on sex

(Written by guest blogger JustAnotherTeen.)  My father is a minister and has been since he was 17. I will not name the denomination but it is obviously a Christian one and saying my parents are conservative is like saying the galaxy is big. Therefore, you can probably guess about the extent of sex ed I […]

Who needs porn?

A mother recently asked me if teenage boys need pornography – whether that visual stimulation is really, really important to them and their sexual development. My answer? No. Teenage boys do not need porn. They may want porn. They may seek out porn. They may be fascinated by porn. All of these things are really, […]

Boys and masturbation – follow-up

Several weeks ago I wrote about what boys need to know about masturbation. One reader took exception to my statement that: “Lotion is a good idea, get yourself some or ask a parent to get you some.” Here is what he had to say: I want to commend you for writing such an affirming piece […]

Teenage circumcision

So I was blithely searching the Internet when I came across this surprising topic: teenage circumcision. I was surprised because I understand circumcision to be a useless operation that causes a lot of pain for absolutely no gain. No, it’s nowhere near as bad as female genital mutilation. But there just doesn’t seem to be […]