Breaking the Hush Factor: Rule #2

I am SO happy to say that, amidst bizarre shipping delays between the publisher and the printer, the first round of softcover Breaking the Hush Factor books have been SHIPPED! If you ordered a softcover during the Indiegogo campaign, you should have received it yesterday – or maybe you’ll get it today. I hope you’ll be as thrilled with them as I am!

If you ordered a hardcover, it’ll be a few more days – more crazy shipping issues!

In the meantime (or in the event you’re reading this after realtime publication), let’s talk about Rule #2:


One of the mistakes I see parents making over and over again is making their conversations with their teenagers be about them. They want to share their experiences, talk about their beliefs/morals/perspectives/etc. They want to do so many things! But it’s not about what the parents want. It’s about what the teenager wants and needs to talk about. It is about the teenager’s passage through understanding and experience.

Furthermore, it’s not about what the parent thinks the teenager is likely to do or even want to do. Parental expectations are based in the parent’s perspective, rather than the teenager’s reality.

This chapter leads parents through considering themselves so that they are able to move forward to considering their teenagers. Accepting that they are unable to accurately predict, that their teenager is unique and individual in their sexual development, allows parents a way of approaching the conversations with openness and an interest in learning more that is so useful!

Breaking the Hush Factor isn’t quite available on Amazon yet – but it will be so soon! And you’ll be able to find out as soon as that happens on the book Facebook page.

About Karen Rayne

Dr. Karen Rayne has been supporting parents and families since 2007 when she received her PhD in Educational Psychology. A specialist in child wellbeing, Dr. Rayne has spent much of her career supporting parents, teachers, and other adults who care for children and teenagers.