Breaking the Hush Factor: Rule #1

Friends, it’s really happening, and I couldn’t be more excited and nervous and nervously excited. My book, Breaking the Hush Factor, is almost here.

This book is written to parents, but it applies to all people who talk about sexuality with young people, and lays out ten accessible and concrete rules for how to have those conversations. The ten rules all work together in a beautifully interconnected framework.


Here’s Rule #1: Know yourself. Parents process through their own childhood emotions as their children grow and develop through childhood, and that doesn’t stop when children reach adolescence. Understanding yourself is a critical first step to engaging with your teenagers around sexuality.

Even more important is understanding the conceptual frameworks through which you, the parent or other adult, understand sexuality, adolescence, and adolescent sexuality. You will bring your ideas into your conversations with your teenagers and being able to parse out when they are appropriate and inappropriate will facilitate much more effective conversations.

I’ll be posting the next nine rules over the next few weeks as the book is launched, along with pieces of information about each of them. The book, of course, goes into much more depth about each of the rules and includes workbook questions to help you process, comics to make you laugh, and graphics that outline the interconnected nature of the rules.

The final proof will arrive on Friday, June 26, and assuming it looks just as beautiful as I expect it to, we’ll be fulfilling preorders next week and the book will be officially launched for mass purchasing love on Monday, July 13 through Amazon, Barnes and Noble, etc.


About Karen Rayne

Dr. Karen Rayne has been supporting parents and families since 2007 when she received her PhD in Educational Psychology. A specialist in child wellbeing, Dr. Rayne has spent much of her career supporting parents, teachers, and other adults who care for children and teenagers.