Teaching that sex is funny

One of my goals in sex education is for students to feel comfortable laughing about sex.  Because let’s be honest – it’s funny!  When you put together all of your naked body parts, plus someone else’s naked body parts, and both people are in the moment rather than making sure they’re looking good, funny things are likely to happen.

When you’re able to laugh at the funny, and to use that unintended or circumstantial humor to deepen and strengthen your sexual and emotional connection, everything (including, but not limited to, sex) just keeps getting better.

A friend sent me an e-mail yesterday.  Here’s her story of her previous night’s love-making session:

Last night we decided to try spermicidal foam.

I put the applicator on the container, and it shot up and bounced off the top of the headboard and got foam on the pillow.

My husband said he thought the top of the headboard kept it from filling correctly.

I tried putting it on the bed, and then it shot up and went who knows where and foam got EVERYWHERE. I went to the bathroom to wash it off me and get a towel, and returned to find my husband scrubbing it off the ceiling.

We looked at each other and could not stop laughing. Totally ruined the mood. But if you can’t have sex with someone who thinks spermicidal foam on the ceiling is hilarious, then who can you have sex with?


About Karen Rayne

Dr. Karen Rayne has been supporting parents and families since 2007 when she received her PhD in Educational Psychology. A specialist in child wellbeing, Dr. Rayne has spent much of her career supporting parents, teachers, and other adults who care for children and teenagers.