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“All I want is for the baby to be healthy!”

I hear this over and over and over again. It’s tied in closely with my other career, sexuality education. People find out someone is pregnant and their first question is, “Are you having a girl or boy?” or “Do you hope it’s a girl or a boy?” And the (progressive?) answer that so many parents-to-be …

What if I don’t like my child?

Or what if, worse, I don’t love them? Love is a many faceted thing. So is liking. Having connections with. Delighting in the presence of. All of these are many faceted. We have a cultural framework of parenthood that suggests it should be all beauty, all roses, that as parents we should be overflowing with …

Shifting Focus

I have spent most of the last twenty years working in sexuality education, in one way or another. It’s been good for me. I hope I’ve been able to inspire many teachers and facilitators with the materials I’ve created to work with young people directly. I hope I’ve been able to provide many of the …

Intimacy in Assisted Living

The assisted living industry provides residential, medical, nutritional, functional, and social services for approximately 1 million older adults in the United States. This category includes assisted living homes as well as residential care facilities for the elderly located within assisted living facilities or independent living retirement communities such as the one at www.carltonseniorliving.com/community/orangevale/, complexes that …

How I have failed you and your children

Every time a young person ends up having sex they feel ambiguous about because they haven’t learned how to say no, I have failed.  Every time a young person contracts HIV due to lack of knowledge, I have failed.  Every time a young person is bullied or ostracised because he or she is gay, I …

About Mosch, my stepfather

Last week, my stepfather, Mosch Virshup, was in a terrible bicycle accident. He is unconscious in the neurological ICU at the University of New Mexico Hospital. Mosch came into my life when I was already a teenager – I met him through the church youth group as a high school freshman. The first time I …

Sexerati and Girl-Children

Last week I was interviewed by Melissa Gira on Sexerati and Felicia on Reign of the Girl-Child.  Here is a bit of a teaser from both, so you’ll go read the whole interviews where they actually live. Questions from Melissa Gira on Sexerati: MGG: I’ve heard a number of adult educators working with youth & …

How to talk with…your parents…about sex

I am delighted to let everyone know that Scarleteen.com recently published a piece I wrote for teenagers called About That “Talk” with Your Parents….  You and your teenagers should all read it. The highlights include: Your parents probably want to talk with you about sex too, and they just can’t find the words to start …