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Teenagers and vibrators

This summer seems to be the summer of teenagers contacting me about how to get a vibrator. I have gotten at least a few comments or e-mails every week, and sometimes every day, from young women who want help getting a vibrator. (I have also gotten the occasional e-mail from a young man interested in […]

When’s the right age for a vibrator? How about a masturbation sleeve?

Lux Alptraum of Boinkology wrote this post this morning: I got my first vibrator when I was seventeen. It was pink, glittery, and penis shaped — and really, nothing to write home about. But it was still my first vibrator. I bought it at Babeland, took it home… and thus began my love affair with […]

Sex Ed Activity and Documentaries

Today I am working with a film production company from France. They will be interviewing me about the beginnings of sexuality (remember our conversations about masturbation from last week?) for an up-coming international documentary. They will also be filming a (staged) sex ed class for middle school students. Here is one of the activities we’ll […]

Research on Masturbation

I have three questions to answer: Typical age of masturbation onset (by gender). Typical age of orgasm/ejaculatory onset (by gender). Typical age of highest masturbation frequency (by gender). So what’s up with the relative lack of research on this topic? (Yes, that was a rhetorical question, for you smart-alecks in the peanut gallery.) Here’s what […]

Vibrators and dildos

Some time ago a teenager at the church where I worked approached me and asked if I would take her shopping for a vibrator. (Although she didn’t know the word for a vibrator, she alluded to it with a bright red face…) I thought it was great, and so took her (with her mother’s explicit […]

Your questions, my answers! (Part 1)

(Written by guest blogger JustAnotherTeen.)  Although this post was originally supposed to be for Friday, I got so many good questions on Wednesday that I did not feel they would all fit in one post. That said, I am still open to more questions for the rest of today or until about 10 PM Eastern […]

My parents’ views on sex

(Written by guest blogger JustAnotherTeen.)  My father is a minister and has been since he was 17. I will not name the denomination but it is obviously a Christian one and saying my parents are conservative is like saying the galaxy is big. Therefore, you can probably guess about the extent of sex ed I […]

Boys and masturbation – follow-up

Several weeks ago I wrote about what boys need to know about masturbation. One reader took exception to my statement that: “Lotion is a good idea, get yourself some or ask a parent to get you some.” Here is what he had to say: I want to commend you for writing such an affirming piece […]

Boys and masturbation

Yesterday we talked about what bits of information are important for a girl to know about masturbation. Today we’ll be talk about what bits of information are important for a parent or other trusted adult to tell a boy about masturbation. Some things are the same, and some are different, but mostly there are just […]

Girls and masturbation

Several parents have asked me what they need to say to their children/teenagers about masturbation. That, of course, differs by gender. So here are a few of the things girls need to know about masturbation, in no particular order. Come back tomorrow, and I’ll have a post about boys. Masturbation is a private activity. (This […]