I happen to live with a city planner. Among other things, this means that my professional books (Reviving Ophelia, Reaching Up For Manhood, You Look Too Young to be a Mom) are interspersed with his professional books (Toward the Livable City and An Ecological History of Agriculture, 10,000 B.C. - A.D. 10,000). Fascinating [...]
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Friends With Benefits (FWB)
Friends with benefits–Two good friends who have a sexual relationship without being emotionally involved. Typically two good friends who have casual sex without a monogamous relationship or any kind of commitment. (definition taken from the Urban Dictionary)
Are these kinds of relationships good or bad? Well, it depends on your perspective.
The NYTimes published an [...]
Top Ten Things To Do Before You Have Sex: a list for teenagers
(Just to be clear, these are things to do before you have oral sex, sexual intercourse, or anything else that could get you pregnant or an STD.)
1. Have an orgasm.
Yes, before you start having sex, you should give yourself an orgasm. It’s important to know what feels good to you before you can show [...]
A Spoonful of Sugar directed by Andrea Williams
This is fabulous short movie (running time 18:29 minutes). Here is the synopsis from the Reel NY Film Festival site:
A Brooklyn teen hides an important secret while on a quest for intimacy and inclusion. Some secrets we should tell. Some questions we should ask.
But this just doesn’t do the film justice. It has [...]
Dating in the 1920’s (or, Obligations Since the 1920’s)
Dating is a social trend that apparently started around 1920. That is, dating as defined by two young people going out to do something (often dancing or movies) together, alone. Several sources on the subject point to the accepted dating trend of “rating and dating” and “petting and paying.”
The first of these all-too-cute [...]
Saying yes
With teenagers, as with toddlers, parents should try to say yes as often as possible. There are so many, many things to say no to (drugs, alcohol, sex, the bad friends, the wrong date, buying a new car, wearing too much make-up, dropping out of school, going to that concert/party/drag racing event, and the [...]
