(The following is a guest post from a female college student who contacted me recently because she wants to work in the field of sex education. I asked if she would like to write occasionally for my blog, and she said yes.)
When my parents gave me “the talk”, the first thing my mother said was, “We would prefer that you wait until marriage to have sex. Whether or not you choose to be abstinent is a personal choice. As long as you keep yourself safe, and don’t make us grandparents anytime soon, we’re good.”
Over a period of 3 nights, they talked about the importance of birth control and getting tested every 6 months. We discussed how to use a condom and emergency contraception. We talked about the emotional aspects when it comes to sex, masturbation, toys, and why waiting would be better. We talked about the difference between statutory rape and rape, molestation, and the age of consent.
Personally, I would like to save myself until marriage. And if I just so happen to have sex before I’m married, I know that I will be just fine. My parents have kept open lines of communication because they want me to be able to go to them with any issues. I’m grateful that they do this and I have no problem telling my parents anything.
I only wish that my peers had the same opportunity as I did. Whenever the topic of sex comes up, I’m shocked at what my peers don’t know about. I believe that if you are going to be participating in sex, something that I consider a very risky action, then you should know how to prevent situations form happening.