Perhaps there is agrain of truth there.

Religious woman hate prostitutes. Why?”

” Because the Bible tells me so” ?

Perhaps they hate the prostitutes because they have themselves internalised the concept of their reduced value as percieved by their society.

They project their hatred of themselves onto a socialy accepted scapegoat?

Women are bombarded constantly with messages about their unclean(menstrual) and less than perfect state of physical perfection.

Seems logical that some would project this onto other woman.

And whoes fault is it ?

Society cranks it out, but the woman keep buying the magazines and feminine products

Your colleague is a misogynist and a terrible person. Hopefully, professional ruin is right around the corner for him, too, and similarly by his own doing.

Tell me a man’s opinion about women’s body size and I can predict his sexual confidence level with 99.843% accuracy.

He could probably further study if prostitutes feel threatened by committed partners. After all, by providing free of charge what your colleague deems to be identical services, is that not a threat to prostitutes’ business model?

Perhaps if you can get him to go study these issues, he’ll be too busy interviewing prostitutes to bait you any further.

I think your point hits very close to home - it is the connection in a long-term monogamous relationship that is so critical, not the physical appearance of the partner(s). I think that there can be a blame put on physical appearance when really the problem is a lack of connection. But because our society is so focused on the physical, people of both genders can default to that as the “real issue.”

Ruth, I think he feels superior because he’s a man. He also accused me of crying because he disagreed with me. (I have a cold and a runny nose at the moment, and am not prone to crying fits regardless.) He was quite heated in the conversation - not cool and distant at all. But regardless, he certainly doesn’t seem to have internal peace of mind.

Thanks for your comments! It’s fun to hear what people’s reactions are to what I write here.

It strikes me that some people feel intellectually superior to others, and oftentimes will play mind games to get to others. It could be a game he’s playing with you: he stays emotionally distant from the conversation and enjoys goading and watching your reactions. Do you think he’s this type? This type of person operates from an internal disquiet, low self-esteem and cynicism. Don’t let it get to you. Could be years before he reaches some internal peace of mind.

As to the assumption that fat women hate prostitutes due to perceived competition, that is patently ridiculous. There are plenty of men who prefer women of size; and reflecting those tastes, there are plenty of prostitutes who themselves are women of size (search on craigslist for BBW, if you must be convinced). Fat women have nothing extra to fear from prostitutes of any body type.

Women who do (or should) fear competition from prostitutes are ones who don’t make their mates feel special. Of the handful friends I have who visit with prostitutes (and admit to such), the only reason I’ve heard so far is how great it makes them feel to have a woman giving her full and undivided attention to his happiness, if only for an hour.

I wonder how their wives would feel if they knew how their own health was being compromised due to their unwillingness to dedicate even one hour to their husbands’ happiness.

Granted I’m an old, married guy so my circle of friends represent only a certain demographic, so I can’t speak to other demographics.