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		<title>By: karenrayne</title>
		<link>http://karenrayne.com/2009/10/29/the-pain-we-cause/comment-page-1/#comment-5170</link>
		<dc:creator>karenrayne</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Tue, 03 Nov 2009 12:38:04 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>It is so disheartening, isn't it Raquel?  Many of the young people who come through my classes have life-changing experiences - and while I am sure I cannot reach each and every one of them at a deep level, I am so blessed to have the opportunity to reach the ones I can.  Comprehensive sex education needs to be universal.  Our young people need it, our society needs it, and our future needs it!</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>It is so disheartening, isn&#8217;t it Raquel?  Many of the young people who come through my classes have life-changing experiences - and while I am sure I cannot reach each and every one of them at a deep level, I am so blessed to have the opportunity to reach the ones I can.  Comprehensive sex education needs to be universal.  Our young people need it, our society needs it, and our future needs it!</p>
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		<title>By: Raquel</title>
		<link>http://karenrayne.com/2009/10/29/the-pain-we-cause/comment-page-1/#comment-5169</link>
		<dc:creator>Raquel</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Tue, 03 Nov 2009 07:16:45 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>I suppose I never really considered that anyone would honestly think a woman deserved these things or genuinely had that much disrespect for females. I always thought these types of comments were flippant and thoughtless, but deep down, the people who made them knew better. I'm appalled to learn that I'm incorrect in  this. Thank you for your incredible educational services to those you're able to reach. This knowledge is clearly well needed, and I can't tell you how much it means to me that you should do what you can to make a difference. Well done, Dr. Rayne.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I suppose I never really considered that anyone would honestly think a woman deserved these things or genuinely had that much disrespect for females. I always thought these types of comments were flippant and thoughtless, but deep down, the people who made them knew better. I&#8217;m appalled to learn that I&#8217;m incorrect in  this. Thank you for your incredible educational services to those you&#8217;re able to reach. This knowledge is clearly well needed, and I can&#8217;t tell you how much it means to me that you should do what you can to make a difference. Well done, Dr. Rayne.</p>
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		<title>By: Thomas MacAulay Millar</title>
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		<dc:creator>Thomas MacAulay Millar</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 29 Oct 2009 19:55:52 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Dr. Rayne, I wanted so badly to be wrong.  But I know better.  

I remember too clearly Haidl:  what defense could they possibly have?  She was unconscious or nearly unconscious the whole time, and her assailants videotaped it!  And they concocted a story of consent that was the worst kind of slut-baiting, and it worked!  The jury hung the first time.  To get a conviction, the prosecutor had to take the last jury to school, and teach them that whatever a woman's sexual behavior, and even if she's a sex worker, she still has a right not to be raped.

The comments at AOL are a cesspool; there is a new and worse one along precisely the lines that I described after the one you cited.  The comments that are not victim blaming are outright racism.

My only hope is that at least this is so horrible that the victim blaming will remain in the realm of the anonymous commenter.  But that's not what I expect.  I expect that soon enough, we'll see mainstream media outlets putting forth earnest "how not to get yourself gangraped" advice.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Dr. Rayne, I wanted so badly to be wrong.  But I know better.  </p>
<p>I remember too clearly Haidl:  what defense could they possibly have?  She was unconscious or nearly unconscious the whole time, and her assailants videotaped it!  And they concocted a story of consent that was the worst kind of slut-baiting, and it worked!  The jury hung the first time.  To get a conviction, the prosecutor had to take the last jury to school, and teach them that whatever a woman&#8217;s sexual behavior, and even if she&#8217;s a sex worker, she still has a right not to be raped.</p>
<p>The comments at AOL are a cesspool; there is a new and worse one along precisely the lines that I described after the one you cited.  The comments that are not victim blaming are outright racism.</p>
<p>My only hope is that at least this is so horrible that the victim blaming will remain in the realm of the anonymous commenter.  But that&#8217;s not what I expect.  I expect that soon enough, we&#8217;ll see mainstream media outlets putting forth earnest &#8220;how not to get yourself gangraped&#8221; advice.</p>
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