Comments on: When maybe means…? http://karenrayne.com/2008/12/16/when-maybe-means/ Fri, 10 Feb 2012 06:41:36 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7.1 hourly 1 By: Human sexuality: knowledge or skills based? | Adolescent Sexuality by Dr. Karen Rayne http://karenrayne.com/2008/12/16/when-maybe-means/comment-page-1/#comment-4029 Human sexuality: knowledge or skills based? | Adolescent Sexuality by Dr. Karen Rayne Thu, 18 Dec 2008 11:42:39 +0000 http://karenrayne.com/?p=493#comment-4029 [...] sexuality: knowledge or skills based? On Tuesday I wrote about my community college students and their developing understanding of rape and how to prevent [...] [...] sexuality: knowledge or skills based? On Tuesday I wrote about my community college students and their developing understanding of rape and how to prevent [...]

]]> By: Alice http://karenrayne.com/2008/12/16/when-maybe-means/comment-page-1/#comment-4024 Alice Wed, 17 Dec 2008 00:02:27 +0000 http://karenrayne.com/?p=493#comment-4024 Several of my male friends have told me stories of guys they knew in high school or college who had an attitude of "I'm going to get that girl and if she says stop I'll just fuck her anyway." My friends, as young men, were thoroughly shocked by this attitude, that it even existed, and did not understand it at all. As middle-aged men they are aware that it is widespread, but are still horrified by it. This suggests to me that sexual attitudes are ingrained at a very young age. I do have one male former professor who has had some success in talking to his male students about the wrongness of sexual aggression. Some of them, he says, can't be reached, but most of them are at least a little bit bothered imagining their mothers or sisters or future daughters in that situation. Several of my male friends have told me stories of guys they knew in high school or college who had an attitude of “I’m going to get that girl and if she says stop I’ll just fuck her anyway.” My friends, as young men, were thoroughly shocked by this attitude, that it even existed, and did not understand it at all. As middle-aged men they are aware that it is widespread, but are still horrified by it. This suggests to me that sexual attitudes are ingrained at a very young age.

I do have one male former professor who has had some success in talking to his male students about the wrongness of sexual aggression. Some of them, he says, can’t be reached, but most of them are at least a little bit bothered imagining their mothers or sisters or future daughters in that situation.

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