Comments on: Honesty about sex…er… http://karenrayne.com/2008/09/03/honesty-about-sexer/ Fri, 18 May 2012 00:32:45 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7.1 hourly 1 By: karenrayne http://karenrayne.com/2008/09/03/honesty-about-sexer/comment-page-1/#comment-3573 karenrayne Wed, 03 Sep 2008 16:06:21 +0000 http://karenrayne.com/?p=426#comment-3573 Thanks, Don, I'm glad you like the clip and the conversation it can engender. Feel free to send the link to this post to the OWL listserve - I might even do it myself if I were on it yet! ;-) Still looking forward to taking part in that conversation too. Thanks, Don, I’m glad you like the clip and the conversation it can engender.

Feel free to send the link to this post to the OWL listserve - I might even do it myself if I were on it yet! ;-) Still looking forward to taking part in that conversation too.

]]> By: Don Hayward http://karenrayne.com/2008/09/03/honesty-about-sexer/comment-page-1/#comment-3572 Don Hayward Wed, 03 Sep 2008 16:01:04 +0000 http://karenrayne.com/?p=426#comment-3572 Good question. My short answer is it's going to take time and conversation to figure out how much honesty is too much honesty. Enumerating some list is probably inappropriate at the on a first date, and ineffectual in the heat of the moment. For one thing, you and your partner will need to understand what is important to each other. Aside from potential disease vectors, what other information is important? Your male-male kiss, your latex allergy, your love/hate of oral sex, the fact that you daydream about Micheal Shanks, Billy Piper, and yourself in a menage a trois? Each of these might be important or irrelevant to your partner. The only way to know is to talk about it beforehand until you and your partner are comfortable with your levels of honesty. Will it always work out? Of course not. We will occasionally experience some level of miscommunication. At that point, you learn from your (and their) mistakes, address the problem and move on. Good clip. I might need to save that to disk for just this kind of discussion. Good question. My short answer is it’s going to take time and conversation to figure out how much honesty is too much honesty. Enumerating some list is probably inappropriate at the on a first date, and ineffectual in the heat of the moment. For one thing, you and your partner will need to understand what is important to each other. Aside from potential disease vectors, what other information is important? Your male-male kiss, your latex allergy, your love/hate of oral sex, the fact that you daydream about Micheal Shanks, Billy Piper, and yourself in a menage a trois? Each of these might be important or irrelevant to your partner. The only way to know is to talk about it beforehand until you and your partner are comfortable with your levels of honesty.

Will it always work out? Of course not. We will occasionally experience some level of miscommunication. At that point, you learn from your (and their) mistakes, address the problem and move on.

Good clip. I might need to save that to disk for just this kind of discussion.

]]> By: Alice http://karenrayne.com/2008/09/03/honesty-about-sexer/comment-page-1/#comment-3571 Alice Wed, 03 Sep 2008 12:44:39 +0000 http://karenrayne.com/?p=426#comment-3571 That was pretty funny, although I think it was less about honesty and more about overthinking the situation! That was pretty funny, although I think it was less about honesty and more about overthinking the situation!

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