Comments on: When’s the right age for a vibrator? How about a masturbation sleeve?

By: karenrayne

karenrayne — Mon, 01 Feb 2010 18:38:12 +0000

Anonymous - Find a female adult who you can talk to and be open about your interests and feelings. While this person might not be your mom, and that’s just fine, it is important that you talk with someone. Maybe an aunt or older sister or cousin? Maybe a friend of the family? Also, here is a link to Scarleteen.com, which is a great resource for information about sex and sexuality for teenagers. This page talks specifically about how to masturbate: http://www.scarleteen.com/article/how_do_you_masturbate

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Sun, 31 Jan 2010 18:16:08 +0000

I am an 11 yr old girl an I prefer to remain anonymous. I don’t under stand how to masturbate but I found a way to get a bit of pleasure. I can’t talk to someone about wanting a vibrator. I have heard about them and I think one would enhance my um, pleasure. I don’t think my parents even know I “masturbate” and I can’t tell anyone. also, I still haven’t worked up the courage to ask my mom to shave my armpits and legs. Any advice?

By: Tabbykitkat

Tabbykitkat — Mon, 09 Nov 2009 05:14:39 +0000

I think that the beginning of high school is an ideal point to let teenagers get personal massage devices. I have been masturbating since four or five and living as an only child with a father, its been difficult. Overprotective and extremely controlling, i wasn’t allowed to be “dirty” as he called it. It made me want to go have sex with someone just to see what it was like. I moved out of his house at 17 and with a friends help i got a personal vibrator. Im almost 19 and still a virgin. I have self respect and respect for other individuals. I think that if you want your baby to stay preserved… get them a toy as soon as they enter high school or they may make the same decisions as their peers. Now days, protection isn’t even enough. So educate your children, but let them have a little fun and privacy with a toy.

By: Adam

Adam — Wed, 28 Oct 2009 17:24:15 +0000

I think that a teenager should have a sex toy when they get to the point that they want one, at any age. When I was a young lad and exploring masturbation it wasn’t too long before I began to experiment with whatever I could get my hands on to make the experience easier and more pleasurable. Getting a stroker like a Fleshlight or some other sleeve says that the act of Solo Sex is good, beneficial, and to be freely enjoyed. As a Christian and a retired minister I wish I had realized these things when I was younger, and still ableto help the young people in my church. I cannot, so I developed a website to advocate masturbation as a gift from God. If a sex toy helps someone enjoy that gift more, I say praise God! (Click on my name, Adam.)

By: karenrayne

karenrayne — Mon, 05 Oct 2009 18:22:31 +0000

JJ, Thanks for adding your perspective! Maybe you have an older sibling or cousin or a young aunt you would feel comfortable asking to help you buy a vibrator? If you live in a town with a good local sex-positive you could try calling and seeing if they have an age limit. If you would like to e-mail me (karen.rayne@gmail.com) and tell me what city you live in, I could let you know if there’s a place nearby. Good luck in your search!

By: JJ

JJ — Mon, 05 Oct 2009 17:41:00 +0000

I am surprised at all this talk. ‘mbanks’ you are wrong. I am 13 now and i have explored using my fingers and this hasnt really worked for me. I want a vibrator… but where do i go from here? I can’t ask for one, I can’t buy one, I can’t order one?? So how the heck do you think i can ‘just get one when i am ready?’ Mabey your ideas are correct for others, but not for all!

By: Sexting, take two | Adolescent Sexuality by Dr. Karen Rayne

Sexting, take two | Adolescent Sexuality by Dr. Karen Rayne — Fri, 25 Sep 2009 16:23:25 +0000

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By: mbanks

mbanks — Mon, 01 Dec 2008 01:12:42 +0000

I am 52 and have enjoyed masturbation all my life. My wife and I even use masturbation in our sex life.

Personally, I think teens do not need sex toys. They are young and should be given the opotunity to explore with their own hands, this is how you learn about your body, if you are insistant on providing something, perhaps some good sexual education books and ensure they have a good lubricant, especially for boys. I don’t think a sleve feels any better then a lubricated hand. And a women will learn much more about her self with her own fingures. When they are ready for toys, they will get their own…leave something for them to explore themselves….

By: Common Man

Common Man — Mon, 13 Oct 2008 11:28:05 +0000

The FleshLight is a device sold for a man to use for sexual self-stimulation. Since it is used for self-stimulation I believe it is a masturbation sleeve. The outside of the FleshLight is shaped like a large flashlight. The FleshlLight case provides a durable container for the gel insert within the case. The inside is the manufacturer’s dermal-replicating gel insert sleeve engineered to have resiliency to give and spring back after giving. There is a threaded cap at each end of the case that can be used for storage of the insert. The small cap is intended to remain on the case during self-stimulation. Adjustment of the small cap gives different levels of a kind of “suction” sensation for the person using the insert. The manufacturer offers different gel inserts with different orifices. The manufacturer calls one of the gel shapes the “Lady.” As to whether a FleshLight is appropriate for a young man I suppose if a young man is at the stage where he is desiring self-stimulation frequently and he wants to have a different way to self pleasure than using his own hand then a FleshLight would be an appropriate alternative for that young man. Purchasing a FleshLight involves continued purchase of water-based lubricant. The manufacturer only recommends water-based lubricants. The purchase of a FleshLight would involve a commitment to the expense of recurring purchases of personal lubricant liquids and the symbolic act of purchase of materials intended for intimate activity.

By: MPL

MPL — Thu, 11 Sep 2008 06:48:26 +0000

Masturbation sleeves feel a bit weird. They mostly just add a different texture to the same sort of manual masturbation motion, unlike vibrators, which stimulate in a very different way than stroking with a hand. Some guys love them apparently though, so whatever works for you, I guess.

Teenage boys really could use more exposure and access to sex toys though, if for no other reason, to get over the “threatened by women using sex toys” thing.