Comments on: Breaking up is hard to do. http://karenrayne.com/2008/07/14/breaking-up-is-hard-to-do-2/ Fri, 12 Mar 2010 17:07:58 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7.1 hourly 1 By: Acceptance and Rejection http://karenrayne.com/2008/07/14/breaking-up-is-hard-to-do-2/comment-page-1/#comment-3355 Acceptance and Rejection Fri, 25 Jul 2008 01:28:40 +0000 http://karenrayne.com/?p=384#comment-3355 [...] Theologian Ponders Praise,” by Stephanie Anagnoson of “Surviving the Workday” and “Breaking Up is Hard to Do” by Karen Rayne of “Adolescent Sexuality…” Acceptance and rejection are two sides [...] [...] Theologian Ponders Praise,” by Stephanie Anagnoson of “Surviving the Workday” and “Breaking Up is Hard to Do” by Karen Rayne of “Adolescent Sexuality…” Acceptance and rejection are two sides [...]

]]> By: Alice http://karenrayne.com/2008/07/14/breaking-up-is-hard-to-do-2/comment-page-1/#comment-3316 Alice Thu, 17 Jul 2008 13:14:51 +0000 http://karenrayne.com/?p=384#comment-3316 My first boyfriend broke up with me by postal mail, then had to break up with me in person later because I didn't quite believe him. It was heart-wrenching for me and very annoying for him. We were 16. When I was 20, I broke up with my ex by going to his house and telling him it was over, spent several hours listening to him say "I don't understand why you're doing this" 300 times, and ended up having to rely on my wits to get out from under him when he decided I <I>wasn't</i> going to leave. In retrospect I wish I had brought you or someone else (maybe a man) along, even just to wait in the car, but I had no idea what was going on back then. My first boyfriend broke up with me by postal mail, then had to break up with me in person later because I didn’t quite believe him. It was heart-wrenching for me and very annoying for him. We were 16.

When I was 20, I broke up with my ex by going to his house and telling him it was over, spent several hours listening to him say “I don’t understand why you’re doing this” 300 times, and ended up having to rely on my wits to get out from under him when he decided I wasn’t going to leave. In retrospect I wish I had brought you or someone else (maybe a man) along, even just to wait in the car, but I had no idea what was going on back then.

]]> By: Robert http://karenrayne.com/2008/07/14/breaking-up-is-hard-to-do-2/comment-page-1/#comment-3302 Robert Tue, 15 Jul 2008 00:25:30 +0000 http://karenrayne.com/?p=384#comment-3302 I have had some horrible break-ups in my day. The worst was probably simply moving away. Totally cowardly. I told her I would call with my new phone number etc, and just never did. The healthiest was when I sat down ahead of time, and thought about the worst possible reaction they might have. And then I asked myself, "Knowing that might be their response, do I still want to break up?" Since the answer was yes, it was much easier to move forward and be clear. I have had some horrible break-ups in my day. The worst was probably simply moving away. Totally cowardly. I told her I would call with my new phone number etc, and just never did.

The healthiest was when I sat down ahead of time, and thought about the worst possible reaction they might have. And then I asked myself, “Knowing that might be their response, do I still want to break up?” Since the answer was yes, it was much easier to move forward and be clear.

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