Comments on: Parents who talk have teenagers who listen. http://karenrayne.com/2008/06/23/parents-who-talk-have-teenagers-who-listen/ Fri, 18 May 2012 00:16:01 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7.1 hourly 1 By: Mad Eye http://karenrayne.com/2008/06/23/parents-who-talk-have-teenagers-who-listen/comment-page-1/#comment-3191 Mad Eye Fri, 27 Jun 2008 08:37:50 +0000 http://karenrayne.com/2008/06/23/parents-who-talk-have-teenagers-who-listen/#comment-3191 My parents never talked to me, nor did they listen to me. Instead, they talked <strong>at</strong> me and <strong>demanded</strong> to know whatever it was they were interested in. If I can give any and all (prospective) parents a word of first hand advice: don't do this. Seriously. Don't. In my 25 years of life I've never once had an actual conversation with either of my parents. Truth be told, I don't even have the desire anymore. I gave up on that a very long time ago. And while I'm at it: if your teenager ends up with a boyfriend/girlfriend, don't be a dick about it. My parents wouldn't let me see my girlfriend because I was "too young for that sort of thing" and she was "nothing but trouble". Needless to say that I went behind their backs. My parents never talked to me, nor did they listen to me. Instead, they talked at me and demanded to know whatever it was they were interested in. If I can give any and all (prospective) parents a word of first hand advice: don’t do this. Seriously. Don’t. In my 25 years of life I’ve never once had an actual conversation with either of my parents. Truth be told, I don’t even have the desire anymore. I gave up on that a very long time ago.

And while I’m at it: if your teenager ends up with a boyfriend/girlfriend, don’t be a dick about it. My parents wouldn’t let me see my girlfriend because I was “too young for that sort of thing” and she was “nothing but trouble”. Needless to say that I went behind their backs.

]]> By: Mommy B http://karenrayne.com/2008/06/23/parents-who-talk-have-teenagers-who-listen/comment-page-1/#comment-3173 Mommy B Tue, 24 Jun 2008 01:58:04 +0000 http://karenrayne.com/2008/06/23/parents-who-talk-have-teenagers-who-listen/#comment-3173 This is really great advice and I find it to be true with my own teen. Good advice, stressed a couple times in a casual setting seems to be much more effective than a long naggy lecture. It's the strangest thing. This is really great advice and I find it to be true with my own teen. Good advice, stressed a couple times in a casual setting seems to be much more effective than a long naggy lecture. It’s the strangest thing.

]]> By: Barb http://karenrayne.com/2008/06/23/parents-who-talk-have-teenagers-who-listen/comment-page-1/#comment-3172 Barb Mon, 23 Jun 2008 21:10:21 +0000 http://karenrayne.com/2008/06/23/parents-who-talk-have-teenagers-who-listen/#comment-3172 Great post, I think what's helped me the most with my girls is that I usually just ask open ended questions and just let them talk. I think if you can get your teens to open up and not be judgemental with them, it goes along way in making a great relationship. Now sometimes I hear more than I'd like lol, but it's all good. Barb Great post, I think what’s helped me the most with my girls is that I usually just ask open ended questions and just let them talk. I think if you can get your teens to open up and not be judgemental with them, it goes along way in making a great relationship. Now sometimes I hear more than I’d like lol, but it’s all good. Barb

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