Comments on: Orgasms http://karenrayne.com/2008/06/19/orgasms/ Fri, 18 May 2012 00:15:14 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7.1 hourly 1 By: karenrayne http://karenrayne.com/2008/06/19/orgasms/comment-page-1/#comment-5588 karenrayne Wed, 05 May 2010 16:27:52 +0000 http://karenrayne.com/2008/06/19/orgasms/#comment-5588 Just keep working at it, Annoyed! Find a time and a space where you know you will be alone for a long stretch and are completely relaxed and comfortable. When you get scared, slow down take a moment to re-center and then try again. Hopefully you'll find yourself relaxing into the feeling. I'm sure it will come - and for most women it is far easier to learn how to orgasm by yourself than with a partner, so keep going along this path. Just keep working at it, Annoyed! Find a time and a space where you know you will be alone for a long stretch and are completely relaxed and comfortable. When you get scared, slow down take a moment to re-center and then try again. Hopefully you’ll find yourself relaxing into the feeling. I’m sure it will come - and for most women it is far easier to learn how to orgasm by yourself than with a partner, so keep going along this path.

]]> By: Annoyed http://karenrayne.com/2008/06/19/orgasms/comment-page-1/#comment-5581 Annoyed Tue, 04 May 2010 15:30:06 +0000 http://karenrayne.com/2008/06/19/orgasms/#comment-5581 I'm 16, and although I masturbate I've never had an orgasm. It's going fiine, then my stomach and thigh muscles start clenching up and I get scared, and for some reason I have to stop. Any advice on how to get through this? I'm worried I'm never going to get one! I’m 16, and although I masturbate I’ve never had an orgasm. It’s going fiine, then my stomach and thigh muscles start clenching up and I get scared, and for some reason I have to stop.
Any advice on how to get through this? I’m worried I’m never going to get one!

]]> By: Joe http://karenrayne.com/2008/06/19/orgasms/comment-page-1/#comment-5242 Joe Mon, 14 Dec 2009 20:16:56 +0000 http://karenrayne.com/2008/06/19/orgasms/#comment-5242 There seems to be a lot of people here who first experienced orgasm climbing something. For me this was what masturbation was from probably the age of 5 or so until about 15-16. I figured that there were others(male) who also experienced this but I didn't know if women/girls could. Now I know from this and another forum. At some point when I was 5 or 6 I was climbing a pole as young boys do and I discovered this wonderful feeling. After this, I would routinely have two or three orgasms during the course of recess most days through elementary school. By junior high(no recess) I got home before my siblings so I would use one of several "poles" around the house- table legs, doors, the support pole in the basement and my favorite- the banister at the bottom of the stairs. The banister was easy because I could grasp the knob at the top and hike up my knees, I didn't actually have to climb anything. Also since I was home alone, doing it in the nude was suddenly a possibility and I found that I could get better and more frequent orgasms without clothing. For the most part this was done just for the repeated pleasurable feeling and not for any sexual reason, if that makes sense. What I find most interesting in retrospect is that even after starting to ejaculate(11 or 12 years old) I took it for granted that I could achieve multiple orgasms(up to 5-6 at a time regularly) using this technique with little effort(if you believe it - 14 in the course of an hour was my record, I kid you not ) and interestingly not always with a full erection. All I needed was a short breather in-between. Masturbating with my hand or regular sex leaves me unable to achieve more than one orgasm every few hours. Why is that, what is the difference? I always assumed that pulling up my legs pushed blood into my genital area and created the right pressure needed to stimulate me. As I got older(40 now) and heavier I found the effort to pull myself up, pull up my knees etc much harder so the technique wasn't as good as when I was younger but I'm glad I discovered it when I did. I also think my stamina was far greater as a child than now. I'm not sure that I could achieve the kind of response now that I could at 12 or 13. I think that the fact that it involves sexuality will prevent this sort of thing from ever being studied in children/teens. There seems to be a lot of people here who first experienced orgasm climbing something. For me this was what masturbation was from probably the age of 5 or so until about 15-16. I figured that there were others(male) who also experienced this but I didn’t know if women/girls could. Now I know from this and another forum.

At some point when I was 5 or 6 I was climbing a pole as young boys do and I discovered this wonderful feeling. After this, I would routinely have two or three orgasms during the course of recess most days through elementary school. By junior high(no recess) I got home before my siblings so I would use one of several “poles” around the house- table legs, doors, the support pole in the basement and my favorite- the banister at the bottom of the stairs. The banister was easy because I could grasp the knob at the top and hike up my knees, I didn’t actually have to climb anything. Also since I was home alone, doing it in the nude was suddenly a possibility and I found that I could get better and more frequent orgasms without clothing. For the most part this was done just for the repeated pleasurable feeling and not for any sexual reason, if that makes sense.

What I find most interesting in retrospect is that even after starting to ejaculate(11 or 12 years old) I took it for granted that I could achieve multiple orgasms(up to 5-6 at a time regularly) using this technique with little effort(if you believe it - 14 in the course of an hour was my record, I kid you not ) and interestingly not always with a full erection. All I needed was a short breather in-between. Masturbating with my hand or regular sex leaves me unable to achieve more than one orgasm every few hours. Why is that, what is the difference? I always assumed that pulling up my legs pushed blood into my genital area and created the right pressure needed to stimulate me.

As I got older(40 now) and heavier I found the effort to pull myself up, pull up my knees etc much harder so the technique wasn’t as good as when I was younger but I’m glad I discovered it when I did.
I also think my stamina was far greater as a child than now. I’m not sure that I could achieve the kind of response now that I could at 12 or 13. I think that the fact that it involves sexuality will prevent this sort of thing from ever being studied in children/teens.

]]> By: karenrayne http://karenrayne.com/2008/06/19/orgasms/comment-page-1/#comment-5066 karenrayne Tue, 29 Sep 2009 11:52:15 +0000 http://karenrayne.com/2008/06/19/orgasms/#comment-5066 This is very common, Mannequin. Many women only orgasm through direct clit stimulation, and intercourse doesn't really do anything for them. Take a read here for a really great introduction to the topic: http://www.scarleteen.com/article/sexuality/sexual_response_orgasm_a_users_guide This is very common, Mannequin. Many women only orgasm through direct clit stimulation, and intercourse doesn’t really do anything for them. Take a read here for a really great introduction to the topic:

http://www.scarleteen.com/article/sexuality/sexual_response_orgasm_a_users_guide

]]> By: MANNEQUIN http://karenrayne.com/2008/06/19/orgasms/comment-page-1/#comment-5065 MANNEQUIN Tue, 29 Sep 2009 11:33:34 +0000 http://karenrayne.com/2008/06/19/orgasms/#comment-5065 Ok i just want to know why iv never had a orgasam from sex.. through "Clit" mastervation ya. but like, fingering and sex...anything to do with going in me. i can only have a clit orgasam. why is that? is that common for girls? Ok i just want to know why iv never had a orgasam from sex.. through “Clit” mastervation ya. but like, fingering and sex…anything to do with going in me. i can only have a clit orgasam. why is that? is that common for girls?

]]> By: Frustrated in Florida http://karenrayne.com/2008/06/19/orgasms/comment-page-1/#comment-4924 Frustrated in Florida Wed, 12 Aug 2009 18:35:41 +0000 http://karenrayne.com/2008/06/19/orgasms/#comment-4924 If you would like a really interesting story, I have one for you. I first experienced orgasms when I was approximately 5, I don’t know the exact age. I would achieve it by walking up to the side of my bedroom door and, while grabbing a doorknob in each hand, curl my body up nice and tight so that I was hanging. All of my weight was on my arms and hands curled around the doorknobs, much like when you curl a dumbbell, and my legs were off the floor. I would hold this position for no more than 30 seconds or so and I would achieve a full orgasm. Strangely, I think I knew what it was, but I'm not really sure. I would get a huge explosion of sensation "down there" followed by a throbbing of the area, shortness of breath, feeling very hot, and a rapid heart rate. Classic signs, right? Keep reading, it gets better. I would then do the same move a few more times, and each time the orgasm came quicker but didn’t last as long. So I could have up to 5 orgasms in a matter of seconds. I loved the sensation so much that I continued to do it thru my childhood, teenage years and occasionally as an adult. The kicker to this story is I have never had an orgasm by sex. Ever. And to be quite honest, I hate sex and I am completely appalled by it. And this is the most frustrating part. My fiancé is a very sexual person, but every time we're in the bedroom, it’s all about him because I experience no pleasure from sex or sexual activities. Even masturbation has no effect other than embarrassing me. And yet I can still do it myself anytime I wish, I just need good sturdy door (I’m not as light as I used to be). But the guilt that I don’t orgasm like normal people just kills me. Any advice? If you would like a really interesting story, I have one for you. I first experienced orgasms when I was approximately 5, I don’t know the exact age. I would achieve it by walking up to the side of my bedroom door and, while grabbing a doorknob in each hand, curl my body up nice and tight so that I was hanging. All of my weight was on my arms and hands curled around the doorknobs, much like when you curl a dumbbell, and my legs were off the floor. I would hold this position for no more than 30 seconds or so and I would achieve a full orgasm. Strangely, I think I knew what it was, but I’m not really sure. I would get a huge explosion of sensation “down there” followed by a throbbing of the area, shortness of breath, feeling very hot, and a rapid heart rate. Classic signs, right? Keep reading, it gets better. I would then do the same move a few more times, and each time the orgasm came quicker but didn’t last as long. So I could have up to 5 orgasms in a matter of seconds.

I loved the sensation so much that I continued to do it thru my childhood, teenage years and occasionally as an adult. The kicker to this story is I have never had an orgasm by sex. Ever. And to be quite honest, I hate sex and I am completely appalled by it. And this is the most frustrating part. My fiancé is a very sexual person, but every time we’re in the bedroom, it’s all about him because I experience no pleasure from sex or sexual activities. Even masturbation has no effect other than embarrassing me. And yet I can still do it myself anytime I wish, I just need good sturdy door (I’m not as light as I used to be). But the guilt that I don’t orgasm like normal people just kills me. Any advice?

]]> By: karenrayne http://karenrayne.com/2008/06/19/orgasms/comment-page-1/#comment-4904 karenrayne Sat, 01 Aug 2009 04:24:01 +0000 http://karenrayne.com/2008/06/19/orgasms/#comment-4904 Hi CTOACN, Of course it's not bad that you have orgasms by yourself! It's great that you're learning about your body and what makes it feel good. Learning to have orgasms during partnered sex is kind of a whole other category. I hope that your partner(s) want to learn how to give you pleasure, how to give you an orgasm, or they probably aren't worth having sex with. So if you can take what you've learned on your own, and bring that into your partnered experiences, that would be great! On another topic, while plenty of teenagers use my site to learn more about sex, it isn't what this site is really designed for. While that's fine, of course, you might find that you get more useful information from http://www.scarleteen.com. Here's one of their articles on orgasm: http://www.scarleteen.com/article/sexuality/sexual_response_orgasm_a_users_guide Hope you find all this helpful! Karen Hi CTOACN,

Of course it’s not bad that you have orgasms by yourself! It’s great that you’re learning about your body and what makes it feel good. Learning to have orgasms during partnered sex is kind of a whole other category. I hope that your partner(s) want to learn how to give you pleasure, how to give you an orgasm, or they probably aren’t worth having sex with. So if you can take what you’ve learned on your own, and bring that into your partnered experiences, that would be great!

On another topic, while plenty of teenagers use my site to learn more about sex, it isn’t what this site is really designed for. While that’s fine, of course, you might find that you get more useful information from http://www.scarleteen.com. Here’s one of their articles on orgasm: http://www.scarleteen.com/article/sexuality/sexual_response_orgasm_a_users_guide

Hope you find all this helpful!
Karen

]]> By: cant think of a clever name http://karenrayne.com/2008/06/19/orgasms/comment-page-1/#comment-4903 cant think of a clever name Sat, 01 Aug 2009 01:48:02 +0000 http://karenrayne.com/2008/06/19/orgasms/#comment-4903 I am certainly not the type of person that would be on one of these web sites in the first place. I stumbled on it while doing a Google search. But this site is..helpfull. I'm 17. And I had my first orgasm in my jacuzzi maybe a few months ago. It's really my bathtub/shower but it can also be a jaccuzi. I was relaxing in it one day when i turned to the side. And the powerful jet felt soo good I didn't move. I experimentally moved my hips against it and before i knew it I was getting water everywhere and this huge feeling that seemed to radiate from my (am i aloud to say "clit" on this site?). but I'm wasn't a virgin. I've had sex plenty of times before. Karen, is it bad that I've never had an orgasm having sex but I do by myself? I am certainly not the type of person that would be on one of these web sites in the first place. I stumbled on it while doing a Google search. But this site is..helpfull. I’m 17. And I had my first orgasm in my jacuzzi maybe a few months ago. It’s really my bathtub/shower but it can also be a jaccuzi. I was relaxing in it one day when i turned to the side. And the powerful jet felt soo good I didn’t move. I experimentally moved my hips against it and before i knew it I was getting water everywhere and this huge feeling that seemed to radiate from my (am i aloud to say “clit” on this site?). but I’m wasn’t a virgin. I’ve had sex plenty of times before. Karen, is it bad that I’ve never had an orgasm having sex but I do by myself?

]]> By: jeff http://karenrayne.com/2008/06/19/orgasms/comment-page-1/#comment-4499 jeff Tue, 21 Apr 2009 05:31:41 +0000 http://karenrayne.com/2008/06/19/orgasms/#comment-4499 I was in grade 1 and we had gym class,i had to climb a rope as i pulled myself up and squeezed with my legs i got a hard on,as i kept rubbing against the rope,i got this feeling of warmth and finally this tickling feeling in the head of my penis. it felt so good i couldnt wait to try this again and after rubbing like before it worked. i tried climbing a pipe,,and a tree just the pulling up and down in one spot made me orgasm. it was after this that i discovered if i could use a nylon stocking on one leg and folded over my penis under my pants that the soft smoothness made it feel even better. i wear nylons and garterbelts from this exp,also panties at the time of climbing a tree with smooth bark,a pole and have found it satisfies me everytime. guys you need to try this get some and go and have a orgasm I was in grade 1 and we had gym class,i had to climb a rope as i pulled myself up and squeezed with my legs i got a hard on,as i kept rubbing against the rope,i got this feeling of warmth and finally this tickling feeling in the head of my penis.
it felt so good i couldnt wait to try this again
and after rubbing like before it worked.
i tried climbing a pipe,,and a tree just the pulling up and down in one spot made me orgasm. it was after this that i discovered if i could use a nylon stocking on one leg and folded over my penis under my pants that the soft smoothness made it feel even better.
i wear nylons and garterbelts from this exp,also panties at the time of climbing a tree with smooth bark,a pole and have found it satisfies me everytime.
guys you need to try this
get some and go and have a orgasm

]]> By: Madison http://karenrayne.com/2008/06/19/orgasms/comment-page-1/#comment-4453 Madison Tue, 07 Apr 2009 00:10:35 +0000 http://karenrayne.com/2008/06/19/orgasms/#comment-4453 I was in school and bouncing around in my seat and all of a sudden my "v" got this feelig that I deeply enjoyed. I went into the bathroom and humped the toilet reapeatedly and before i knew it i had a very big and loud orgasem. Thankfully no one found out...other then the boys in the next bathroom that were masturbateing their heads off. That of corse got me horny all over again so i used my pencil. Now i have a vibrator...but that had to be the best! I was in school and bouncing around in my seat and all of a sudden my “v” got this feelig that I deeply enjoyed. I went into the bathroom and humped the toilet reapeatedly and before i knew it i had a very big and loud orgasem. Thankfully no one found out…other then the boys in the next bathroom that were masturbateing their heads off. That of corse got me horny all over again so i used my pencil. Now i have a vibrator…but that had to be the best!

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