Comments on: Abortion, Porn, and Other Generally Bad News http://karenrayne.com/2008/06/12/abortion-porn-and-other-generally-bad-news/ Fri, 18 May 2012 00:14:26 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7.1 hourly 1 By: Paul Sunstone http://karenrayne.com/2008/06/12/abortion-porn-and-other-generally-bad-news/comment-page-1/#comment-3136 Paul Sunstone Fri, 13 Jun 2008 13:20:19 +0000 http://karenrayne.com/2008/06/12/abortion-porn-and-other-generally-bad-news/#comment-3136 I hope the mom takes your tough but excellent advice. It sounds like the kid is handling his life a wee bit better than his mother, despite his flaws. Thanks for the link, by the way! :) I hope the mom takes your tough but excellent advice. It sounds like the kid is handling his life a wee bit better than his mother, despite his flaws.

Thanks for the link, by the way! :)

]]> By: Margaret Pevec http://karenrayne.com/2008/06/12/abortion-porn-and-other-generally-bad-news/comment-page-1/#comment-3130 Margaret Pevec Thu, 12 Jun 2008 14:17:07 +0000 http://karenrayne.com/2008/06/12/abortion-porn-and-other-generally-bad-news/#comment-3130 I'm so glad you were the voice of reason for this mom. She won't have her son's attention too much longer anyway; then he'll be off doing what he does. Parents are often so unwilling to consider the dynamic in the relationship...it's a fundamental tenet of adultism: the kids are screwed up and it has nothing to do with the adults around them. I’m so glad you were the voice of reason for this mom. She won’t have her son’s attention too much longer anyway; then he’ll be off doing what he does. Parents are often so unwilling to consider the dynamic in the relationship…it’s a fundamental tenet of adultism: the kids are screwed up and it has nothing to do with the adults around them.

]]> By: Dorian Rinehart http://karenrayne.com/2008/06/12/abortion-porn-and-other-generally-bad-news/comment-page-1/#comment-3129 Dorian Rinehart Thu, 12 Jun 2008 12:28:16 +0000 http://karenrayne.com/2008/06/12/abortion-porn-and-other-generally-bad-news/#comment-3129 It's difficult for parents to think they have any responsibility to DEMONSTRATE longterm the behaviors they want to see from their children. It's difficult for parents to recognize that the young child who obeyed without questioning is now capable of determining their own actions and following through. The son will keep changing, we all do. But, it is not likely to be in the direction this mother wants. He may not change the way she wants him to even if she is willing to make changes herself, but the odds would improve, based on the situation you describe. Too bad she couldn't hear you. It’s difficult for parents to think they have any responsibility to DEMONSTRATE longterm the behaviors they want to see from their children. It’s difficult for parents to recognize that the young child who obeyed without questioning is now capable of determining their own actions and following through. The son will keep changing, we all do. But, it is not likely to be in the direction this mother wants. He may not change the way she wants him to even if she is willing to make changes herself, but the odds would improve, based on the situation you describe. Too bad she couldn’t hear you.

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