I am delighted to have been interviewed by Boinkology recently. Go take a read and read my (rather lengthy) answers to these questions:
What got you interested in adolescent sexuality?
In your writing, you stress the importance of parents talking to their kids about sex. Does it matter how parents address the topic, or is just [...]
A teenager’s room is like their whole house, squished into a much smaller space. This is where the teenager does pretty much everything - sleep, work, socialize.
Given how present the room is in a teenager’s life, it is important to let the teenager have ownership of the room. This often means redecorating - maybe several [...]
In the days since the initial police raid on the Jesus Christ Church of Later Day Saints (i.e., Mormon) ranch in west Texas, there has been and continues to be a whirlwind of news coverage. There were many young girls forced to marry older men, and then forced to have sex with them. The police [...]
Last week I wrote the first and the second parts of this series. I apologize for the longer-than-planned interlude before this, the third part!
Here is my position: Having sex with another person is a privilege, and with privilege comes responsibility. Hence, having sex with another person necessitates a level of responsibility both to [...]
Okay, I am diverging from this week’s regularly scheduled blog posts again. I’ll have to return to them next week.
Last night rumors swirled around a community of adults about one young woman’s theoretical, or rumored, sexual activities.
It’s unclear how the rumors got started, or whether there is any truth to them. No one [...]
Hi folks, I was up late last night on the phone helping a client talk through some emergency family related sex issues. Thus, no content blog post today.
I do education and consulting on issues of adolescent sexuality for both parents and adolescents, so if you’re in need of some support for topics along these [...]
Yesterday I wrote the introduction to this series. Today I am writing about how talking with teenagers about sex as a privilege can lead to a discussion of responsibility to the physical aspects of a sexual relationship.
Once a teenager acknowledges that sexual activities are inherently different from non-sexual activities, the most obvious way to [...]
On Friday I wrote about the importance of talking with teenagers about privilege vs. responsibility in sexual decision making. Here’s the first concrete step a parent or a teacher could ask a teenager to begin a conversation around this topic:
“How is hooking up with someone different from, say, playing a computer game with someone?”
This [...]
(Written by Guest Blogger JustAnotherTeen.)
Let’s face it, my girlfriend and I are far from the poster children of safer sex practices. Sure, we are not that bad, and try to use two forms of birth control, but no one could argue that they are the safest ways to go. When we first had sex, she [...]
With every privilege should come increased responsibility.
For example, my 6-year-old daughter has increased freedom at every birthday. She is able to stay up later or walk alone to our neighbor’s house. But her responsibilities also increase at every birthday. Last year she started getting ready for bed without our prompting or help. Maybe this year [...]
