Comments on: Rumors, and the associated yuckiness http://karenrayne.com/2008/04/11/rumors-and-the-associated-yuckiness/ Thu, 17 May 2012 23:58:20 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7.1 hourly 1 By: Gaia Lives http://karenrayne.com/2008/04/11/rumors-and-the-associated-yuckiness/comment-page-1/#comment-2718 Gaia Lives Fri, 11 Apr 2008 14:32:54 +0000 http://karenrayne.com/2008/04/11/rumors-and-the-associated-yuckiness/#comment-2718 This post brought tears to my eyes and, since I am sitting in a public place at my work site, I am trying to push them back and still feel the feelings. I am so pleased that a professional sex educator can address this topic so sensitively and respectfully. I remember so well my painful teen years, being called a slut and a whore by my mother and my peers. I am grateful that today Dr Rayne can vocalize the difficulty for the adults, with good intention, but likely being driven at least partially by the "salaciousness of discussing teenage sexuality". Thoughtful adults can discuss the topic and the issue, but it is important to guard the words and the internal motivation very carefully to avoid further damage. Thank you for your post. This post brought tears to my eyes and, since I am sitting in a public place at my work site, I am trying to push them back and still feel the feelings. I am so pleased that a professional sex educator can address this topic so sensitively and respectfully.
I remember so well my painful teen years, being called a slut and a whore by my mother and my peers.
I am grateful that today Dr Rayne can vocalize the difficulty for the adults, with good intention, but likely being driven at least partially by the “salaciousness of discussing teenage sexuality”. Thoughtful adults can discuss the topic and the issue, but it is important to guard the words and the internal motivation very carefully to avoid further damage.
Thank you for your post.

]]> By: Alice http://karenrayne.com/2008/04/11/rumors-and-the-associated-yuckiness/comment-page-1/#comment-2715 Alice Fri, 11 Apr 2008 13:26:48 +0000 http://karenrayne.com/2008/04/11/rumors-and-the-associated-yuckiness/#comment-2715 I was 15 before I ever even <i>held hands</i> with a boy, and yet, at 12 I was called "slut" many times, because my breasts were developing rapidly. It still hurts now, to think about it, and still affects what I choose to wear. And yet, what, really, is wrong with having sex with a lot of people even if someone really does? It doesn't have anything to do with whether she's a kind person or a fair person or ANYTHING. It's just sex! I hope the young woman you're talking about manages to get through this with few or no negative experiences. I was 15 before I ever even held hands with a boy, and yet, at 12 I was called “slut” many times, because my breasts were developing rapidly. It still hurts now, to think about it, and still affects what I choose to wear.

And yet, what, really, is wrong with having sex with a lot of people even if someone really does? It doesn’t have anything to do with whether she’s a kind person or a fair person or ANYTHING. It’s just sex!

I hope the young woman you’re talking about manages to get through this with few or no negative experiences.

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