Comments on: What I think, an Introduction http://karenrayne.com/2008/02/05/what-i-think-an-introduction/ Fri, 10 Feb 2012 08:36:10 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7.1 hourly 1 By: Alice http://karenrayne.com/2008/02/05/what-i-think-an-introduction/comment-page-1/#comment-2246 Alice Wed, 06 Feb 2008 14:56:40 +0000 http://karenrayne.com/2008/02/05/what-i-think-an-introduction/#comment-2246 Robert, when I was a teenager (long after a friend told me about sex when I was 8), I found the book "Where Did I Come From?" stuck in a shelf in our den. I guess my parents never had the courage to give it to me. Robert, when I was a teenager (long after a friend told me about sex when I was 8), I found the book “Where Did I Come From?” stuck in a shelf in our den. I guess my parents never had the courage to give it to me.

]]> By: Robert http://karenrayne.com/2008/02/05/what-i-think-an-introduction/comment-page-1/#comment-2244 Robert Wed, 06 Feb 2008 03:40:40 +0000 http://karenrayne.com/2008/02/05/what-i-think-an-introduction/#comment-2244 I might change #1 to read - Kids will learn about sex. If parents want it be from them, then they should speak up. My parental chat was more like Alice's. "Here's a book. Read it, and let us know if you have any questions." At least it was a fun book "Where Did I Come From?" Highly recommended (but please do include a bit more discussion with it...) I look forward to reading the other posts of this series. They would be a very good permanent intro to add to your site. I might change #1 to read - Kids will learn about sex. If parents want it be from them, then they should speak up. My parental chat was more like Alice’s. “Here’s a book. Read it, and let us know if you have any questions.” At least it was a fun book “Where Did I Come From?” Highly recommended (but please do include a bit more discussion with it…)

I look forward to reading the other posts of this series. They would be a very good permanent intro to add to your site.

]]> By: Joan Price http://karenrayne.com/2008/02/05/what-i-think-an-introduction/comment-page-1/#comment-2242 Joan Price Tue, 05 Feb 2008 22:37:43 +0000 http://karenrayne.com/2008/02/05/what-i-think-an-introduction/#comment-2242 My early sex education consisted of my father handing me a pamphlet about reproduction. At the end of reading it, I asked my best friend (because I didn't feel I could ask my father), "But how does the sperm from the man get to the egg of the woman?" The major concepts that were omitted from my early sex education were these:What is sexual intercourse, how does it take place, and what makes sex so enjoyable that people want to do it? My father was a good man doing his best. But I would have expected more from him, because he was an ob/gyn M.D. and saw plenty of girls "in trouble" (as we called it then) because they didn't know the REAL facts about sex. Joan Price author of Better Than I Ever Expected: Straight Talk about Sex After Sixty (http://www.joanprice.com/BetterThanExpected.htm) Join us -- we're talking about ageless sexuality at http://www.betterthanieverexpected.blogspot.com My early sex education consisted of my father handing me a pamphlet about reproduction. At the end of reading it, I asked my best friend (because I didn’t feel I could ask my father), “But how does the sperm from the man get to the egg of the woman?” The major concepts that were omitted from my early sex education were these:What is sexual intercourse, how does it take place, and what makes sex so enjoyable that people want to do it?

My father was a good man doing his best. But I would have expected more from him, because he was an ob/gyn M.D. and saw plenty of girls “in trouble” (as we called it then) because they didn’t know the REAL facts about sex.

Joan Price
author of Better Than I Ever Expected: Straight Talk about Sex After Sixty (http://www.joanprice.com/BetterThanExpected.htm)
Join us — we’re talking about ageless sexuality at http://www.betterthanieverexpected.blogspot.com

]]> By: Barb http://karenrayne.com/2008/02/05/what-i-think-an-introduction/comment-page-1/#comment-2241 Barb Tue, 05 Feb 2008 14:57:50 +0000 http://karenrayne.com/2008/02/05/what-i-think-an-introduction/#comment-2241 Great post, I agree, I wish more parents understood those 3 points. Barb Great post, I agree, I wish more parents understood those 3 points. Barb

]]> By: karenrayne http://karenrayne.com/2008/02/05/what-i-think-an-introduction/comment-page-1/#comment-2240 karenrayne Tue, 05 Feb 2008 14:56:52 +0000 http://karenrayne.com/2008/02/05/what-i-think-an-introduction/#comment-2240 Well, when parents don't talk with their kids about sex, the kids can feel ostracized from their parents on the subject of sex and sexuality. The kids - and then the teenagers and then the adults - often aren't able to be honest with their parents about their sexuality, and aren't able to get help from their parents about sexually-related-issues. That can include unplanned pregnancies, STIs, sexual abuse or harassment, etc. Even parents who don't talk about sex with their children often want their children to come to them when they need help. But if the parents haven't made the topic of sex and sexuality an acceptable topic in the household, their children will often go to some lengths to avoid starting the conversation, particularly under unhappy circumstances. Well, when parents don’t talk with their kids about sex, the kids can feel ostracized from their parents on the subject of sex and sexuality.

The kids - and then the teenagers and then the adults - often aren’t able to be honest with their parents about their sexuality, and aren’t able to get help from their parents about sexually-related-issues. That can include unplanned pregnancies, STIs, sexual abuse or harassment, etc.

Even parents who don’t talk about sex with their children often want their children to come to them when they need help. But if the parents haven’t made the topic of sex and sexuality an acceptable topic in the household, their children will often go to some lengths to avoid starting the conversation, particularly under unhappy circumstances.

]]> By: Alice http://karenrayne.com/2008/02/05/what-i-think-an-introduction/comment-page-1/#comment-2239 Alice Tue, 05 Feb 2008 14:29:23 +0000 http://karenrayne.com/2008/02/05/what-i-think-an-introduction/#comment-2239 So the #1, parents "have" to talk to their kids about sex. What happens if you don't do something you "have" to do? (For other readers, the <I>entire extent</i> of my parents talking to me about sex consisted of my dad saying to me once when I was 12, "Pretty soon boys are going to start wanting to have sex with you. SAY NO, no matter what. Sex is only for having babies.") So the #1, parents “have” to talk to their kids about sex. What happens if you don’t do something you “have” to do?

(For other readers, the entire extent of my parents talking to me about sex consisted of my dad saying to me once when I was 12, “Pretty soon boys are going to start wanting to have sex with you. SAY NO, no matter what. Sex is only for having babies.”)

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