Comments on: Honoring adolescent sexuality

By: Alice

Alice — Sat, 19 Jan 2008 14:12:47 +0000

It’s much more difficult to be abstinent after having sex than it is to be abstinent before having sex. So I think it’s a good idea to point out that even though it’s difficult, you can do it if you want to, and there are people who will support you in that decision.

But yeah, lying to people about your sexual status and hurting the feelings of your past partners is not cool.

By: Ruth Rinehart

Ruth Rinehart — Fri, 18 Jan 2008 17:31:12 +0000

I think there’s a big difference between saying you are a Born Again Virgin, and simply a virgin. If you say you are a Born Again Virgin, you ARE acknowledging that you have had sex, but you are accepting your new “virgin” status in the same way that born again christians accept that they have a truly new life. Think of the difference between saying you are a Christian and a Born Again Christian. There’s really a big difference.

Although its not a theory or practice I subscribe to, I understand the Born Again Virgin concept, in the context of born again christianity. It doesn’t offend me. But if someone, like your friend, simply says s/he’s a virgin, instead of a born again virgin, then they are lying, pure and simple.

By: Dating Advice - Anything ‘08 : Blog Archive : Honoring adolescent sexuality

Fri, 18 Jan 2008 13:19:01 +0000

[...] unknown wrote an interesting post today onHere’s a quick excerpt Yesterday I wrote about the Silver Ring Thing. Among other issues with this program, I talked about the Born-Again Virgin process, and how much I dislike it. One of the reasons I dislike it is because I think it teaches teenagers (and pre-teenagers) that sexuality is something you can annul. You can deny it’s existence. And, most importantly, you can deny your own past experiences with it. This really does the exact opposite of what I think the Silver Ring Thing folks want. By giving teenagers [...]