And yet… that’s just not true. Yes, some guys use it as an excuse, but I’ve also had partners with very thick penises that really DID need a large condom. The other ones were physically painful to him. Perhaps we should be teaching our youths that it might be an excuse, but keep larger or smaller sized condoms on hand, just to be sure.

There’s a company that makes sized-to-fit condoms. Condomania carries them, and you measure your penis and figure out your size and then you get the right sized condom for you, but it seems they’re out of production right now. (Not to mention expensive and probably outside of the price range for most adolescents.)

I’ve always kinda wondered why clinics that give out free condoms don’t give out free smaller and larger ones, too. The larger ones are perfect for dildos, so you’d think they’d especially be giving them out, seeing as they have multiple duty. Heck, most clinics don’t even give out dental dams.

The Lesbian Services Project (who serves lesbians, bisexual women, and transwomen) of the Whitman-Walker clinic here in DC gives out the best safe sex kits. They’re known as a “sex box” and they’re a small folded box that you open that has a condom, lube, a dental dam and gloves inside. Printed inside of the box is reasons for the various items, including “Why would lesbians need a condom?” and then talks about how all insertables, penis or not, need to be wrapped up.

They also have a brochure on safe sex that focuses on the actions, not the orientations, and how to be safe with all of those actions, regardless of the people doing them.

(And that should have been “Because I know that all of my readers have sex safely AND responsibly.”)

Back when we used condoms there was only one kind that my husband didn’t absolutely hate–I don’t know if it was size or fit or what.