Comments on: On the uselessness of virginity and abstinence http://karenrayne.com/2007/09/13/on-the-uselessness-of-virginity-and-abstinence/ Sat, 11 Feb 2012 04:07:33 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7.1 hourly 1 By: Adolescent Sexuality by Dr. Karen Rayne » Guttmacher Instutite Research on Adolescent Sexuality Trends Analyzed by Me! http://karenrayne.com/2007/09/13/on-the-uselessness-of-virginity-and-abstinence/comment-page-1/#comment-3034 Adolescent Sexuality by Dr. Karen Rayne » Guttmacher Instutite Research on Adolescent Sexuality Trends Analyzed by Me! Wed, 21 May 2008 11:26:58 +0000 http://karenrayne.com/?p=146#comment-3034 [...] that teenagers are not claiming to be virgins when they have had oral but not anal sex.  There is other research that does go into a bit more detail of teenagers’ understandings of the meanings of these [...] [...] that teenagers are not claiming to be virgins when they have had oral but not anal sex.  There is other research that does go into a bit more detail of teenagers’ understandings of the meanings of these [...]

]]> By: Alice http://karenrayne.com/2007/09/13/on-the-uselessness-of-virginity-and-abstinence/comment-page-1/#comment-217 Alice Fri, 14 Sep 2007 12:23:00 +0000 http://karenrayne.com/?p=146#comment-217 <i>I remember when I was a teenager, some of my friends enjoyed telling people they were still virgins and what they meant was they had not had penetration in their ears yet.</i><br/><br/>Did your friends grow up to be writers for <i>Family Guy</i>?! I remember when I was a teenager, some of my friends enjoyed telling people they were still virgins and what they meant was they had not had penetration in their ears yet.

Did your friends grow up to be writers for Family Guy?!

]]> By: Dorian http://karenrayne.com/2007/09/13/on-the-uselessness-of-virginity-and-abstinence/comment-page-1/#comment-215 Dorian Fri, 14 Sep 2007 11:10:00 +0000 http://karenrayne.com/?p=146#comment-215 I was talking with a friend about these numbers (you'd talked about them on the radio show, but I hadn't read the post yet) and she asked me for my definition of virginity. We struggled together with that and I love coming back and reading your suggestion to toss the word out. Abstinence related to sexuality I tossed out a long time ago - no one can be abstinent from being sexual being - we are born sexual beings and we die sexual beings whether we die at 1 year old or 101 years old (like my grandmother who had just begun a new relationship!). We can choose to engage or not engage in particular behaviors, but sexual we are no matter what our behaviors. I remember when I was a teenager, some of my friends enjoyed telling people they were still virgins and what they meant was they had not had penetration in their ears yet. Relating sexual discussions to specific practices is helpful to clarity in the discussion - thanks for the suggestion. I was talking with a friend about these numbers (you’d talked about them on the radio show, but I hadn’t read the post yet) and she asked me for my definition of virginity. We struggled together with that and I love coming back and reading your suggestion to toss the word out. Abstinence related to sexuality I tossed out a long time ago - no one can be abstinent from being sexual being - we are born sexual beings and we die sexual beings whether we die at 1 year old or 101 years old (like my grandmother who had just begun a new relationship!). We can choose to engage or not engage in particular behaviors, but sexual we are no matter what our behaviors. I remember when I was a teenager, some of my friends enjoyed telling people they were still virgins and what they meant was they had not had penetration in their ears yet. Relating sexual discussions to specific practices is helpful to clarity in the discussion - thanks for the suggestion.

]]> By: Alice http://karenrayne.com/2007/09/13/on-the-uselessness-of-virginity-and-abstinence/comment-page-1/#comment-214 Alice Fri, 14 Sep 2007 03:45:00 +0000 http://karenrayne.com/?p=146#comment-214 I wonder what the figures for adults of different ages would be. I wonder what the figures for adults of different ages would be.

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