A Spoonful of Sugar directed by Andrea Williams

This is fabulous short movie (running time 18:29 minutes). Here is the synopsis from the Reel NY Film Festival site:

A Brooklyn teen hides an important secret while on a quest for intimacy and inclusion. Some secrets we should tell. Some questions we should ask.

But this just doesn’t do the film justice. It has won several awards, including the Best Student Film from the Hollywood Black Film Festival. I looked for the film on youtube, but couldn’t find it, so I can’t post it here. So please click on the link and watch it on the Reel NY Film Festival site. Then make sure your teenager watches it too. Here are a few questions to guide your conversation:

  • At what point should the girl have told the boy her secret?
  • If you were the girl, do you think you would have made the same choices?
  • If you were the boy, what would your reaction be? Would you continue to see the girl?
  • Should the mother have told the boy?

But remember, these are not just questions for the teenager to answer thoughtfully – they’re questions for the parent to consider deeply as well.

About Karen Rayne

Dr. Karen Rayne has been supporting parents and families since 2007 when she received her PhD in Educational Psychology. A specialist in child wellbeing, Dr. Rayne has spent much of her career supporting parents, teachers, and other adults who care for children and teenagers.


  1. Karen, thanks for posting this. I viewed the film and agree with your praise. That’s great that you posted a viewer’s guide for parents and teens to discuss this.

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  2. Excellent, excellent video. Will be forwarding this to some other educators.

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