My experience would probably more closely mirror Susan’s, and I think that what Susan did was essentially a pretty ‘healthy’ thing–waiting until she was ready and doing it with someone she actually felt close to. Her ‘friends’, however, are NOT making healthy decisions–if Susan’s boyfriend turns out to be as big of a creep as my first boyfriend did, Susan will have no one to turn to in her peer group about it, and that can be really difficult to go through. If I were a guidance counselor at a high school I’d tell the students to make their decisions for THEMSELVES, not for everyone else around them.