Comments on: The hook-up

By: Dorian

Dorian — Tue, 31 Jul 2007 13:57:00 +0000

“Hook-ups” for me, when I was a teenager, were one night stands that left me feeling yucky and stupid. I can see theoretically that it doesn’t have to be that way but I think many teens have sex that do not want to - they feel compelled to in order to obtain secondary gain - popularity, someone to love them (or at least ‘act’ like they love them) for the moment, getting back at parents for painful experiences at home. I don’t know how to help adolescent’s sort that out, make choices based on being comfortable in themselves, rather than making choices based on being uncomfortable in themselves.

By: Wendy

Wendy — Tue, 31 Jul 2007 05:48:00 +0000

I have had many hook-ups. They were almost all wonderful. The key is having no expectations of love and/or a long-term relationship, but simply enjoying the coming-together for what it is: a pleasurable connection with another person. Enjoying sexuality with another person is wonderful! It is clear that our bodies are made for pleasure in this way. If it is respectful and honest, there’s nothing wrong with so-called “one-night-stands” or “hook-ups.” (obviously, pregnancy prevention and STD prevention is paramount, but once you’ve got those bases covered, go for it!)

By: Alice

Alice — Mon, 30 Jul 2007 16:49:00 +0000

I look back happily on the hook-up I had with the young man I met in Europe.