http://karenrayne.com/2007/05/31/leering-at-teenage-atheletes-now-you-can-do-it-from-anywhere/ Thu, 17 May 2012 22:37:16 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7.1 hourly 1 http://karenrayne.com/2007/05/31/leering-at-teenage-atheletes-now-you-can-do-it-from-anywhere/comment-page-1/#comment-89 Dorian Fri, 01 Jun 2007 06:16:00 +0000 http://karenrayne.com/?p=60#comment-89 The memory of my teen years, when my mother considered me to be a slut (and called me a 'whore' to my face) is still very painful. I have worked as a teen youth advisor for my church and I am so aware of teens as being intelligent, open, interested in life. They want so much to have adults in their lives who will listen to them and help them process their experiences (only those adults who do more listening than helping though). I didn't have any such adult and I certainly didn't think I wanted one - all the adults I knew were judgmental and increased my (already high) capacity for self-loathing. <br/>I'm glad this athlete has supportive adults (at least it sounds as if she does) in her life. I hope she will learn that what she makes of her life will not have a lot to do with this incident, as long as she can move past it without letting it define her. The memory of my teen years, when my mother considered me to be a slut (and called me a ‘whore’ to my face) is still very painful. I have worked as a teen youth advisor for my church and I am so aware of teens as being intelligent, open, interested in life. They want so much to have adults in their lives who will listen to them and help them process their experiences (only those adults who do more listening than helping though). I didn’t have any such adult and I certainly didn’t think I wanted one - all the adults I knew were judgmental and increased my (already high) capacity for self-loathing.
I’m glad this athlete has supportive adults (at least it sounds as if she does) in her life. I hope she will learn that what she makes of her life will not have a lot to do with this incident, as long as she can move past it without letting it define her.

]]> http://karenrayne.com/2007/05/31/leering-at-teenage-atheletes-now-you-can-do-it-from-anywhere/comment-page-1/#comment-88 Alice Thu, 31 May 2007 17:29:00 +0000 http://karenrayne.com/?p=60#comment-88 Being called a slut in seventh grade because my breasts were growing quickly is probably why I still wear loose shirts to this day. Being called a slut in seventh grade because my breasts were growing quickly is probably why I still wear loose shirts to this day.

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