Comments on: Who has the power? http://karenrayne.com/2007/05/25/who-has-the-power/ Thu, 17 May 2012 22:36:01 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7.1 hourly 1 By: Ruth http://karenrayne.com/2007/05/25/who-has-the-power/comment-page-1/#comment-86 Ruth Sun, 27 May 2007 13:49:00 +0000 http://karenrayne.com/?p=55#comment-86 this is a really wonderful post, Karen. This has got to be one of the most painful aspects of parenting ... the true inability to completely protect one's child. <br/><br/>You earlier referenced a book about the parent/teen relationship. I think it is the Parent / Teen Breakthrough: The Relationship Approach. It is excellent, and really hammers home a parent's inability to keep the teen from engaging in dangerous behavior. The solution it provides is building a relationship with your teen such that openness and honesty are valued, so hopefully your teen will be able to talk about the challenges and temptations offered (engaged?) in their lives. If they do this while they have an adult willing to talk about it all, hopefully they have a safety net to help them come out the other side making wise choices.<br/><br/>We're all just so danged imperfect! this is a really wonderful post, Karen. This has got to be one of the most painful aspects of parenting … the true inability to completely protect one’s child.

You earlier referenced a book about the parent/teen relationship. I think it is the Parent / Teen Breakthrough: The Relationship Approach. It is excellent, and really hammers home a parent’s inability to keep the teen from engaging in dangerous behavior. The solution it provides is building a relationship with your teen such that openness and honesty are valued, so hopefully your teen will be able to talk about the challenges and temptations offered (engaged?) in their lives. If they do this while they have an adult willing to talk about it all, hopefully they have a safety net to help them come out the other side making wise choices.

We’re all just so danged imperfect!

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