I recently heard this story:

A conservative mother and her 5th grade daughter were at a fair. The daughter was wearing a relatively skimpy tank top which was low cut in the back. The daughter was off with her friends, and got a henna tatoo on her back above her tank top. When the mother saw the daughter’s tatoo, she was clearly surprised, embarrassed, and scandalized. She exclaimed daughter’s name, and then glanced around, to see who else was watching her daughter.

The issue here is that a relatively harmless thing, like a henna tatoo, was turned into an Issue. When we make a big deal out of a little thing, teenagers come to see our concerns as overprotecting and irrelevant. Then, when the the little things become big things, they don’t listen. As with toddlers, parents need to pick their battles with their teenagers.