Comments on: What parents know about their teenagers’ sex lives http://karenrayne.com/2007/03/22/what-parents-know-about-their-teenagers-sex-lives/ Thu, 17 May 2012 22:23:33 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7.1 hourly 1 By: serenity http://karenrayne.com/2007/03/22/what-parents-know-about-their-teenagers-sex-lives/comment-page-1/#comment-4386 serenity Fri, 27 Mar 2009 18:02:43 +0000 http://karenrayne.com/?p=13#comment-4386 It's none of your buisness really what we are doing. It’s none of your buisness really what we are doing.

]]> By: Karen Rayne http://karenrayne.com/2007/03/22/what-parents-know-about-their-teenagers-sex-lives/comment-page-1/#comment-25 Karen Rayne Fri, 23 Mar 2007 22:38:00 +0000 http://karenrayne.com/?p=13#comment-25 This is a great, point, Ruth. Parents have to keep talking to their teenagers, even if they aren't talking back, and even if they don't appear to be listening. This is a great, point, Ruth. Parents have to keep talking to their teenagers, even if they aren’t talking back, and even if they don’t appear to be listening.

]]> By: Ruth Rinehart http://karenrayne.com/2007/03/22/what-parents-know-about-their-teenagers-sex-lives/comment-page-1/#comment-24 Ruth Rinehart Fri, 23 Mar 2007 18:52:00 +0000 http://karenrayne.com/?p=13#comment-24 I think the best we can do is try to have a continuing conversation about matters sexual with our children. Its impossible for them not to be influenced by our culture, which means there is embarassment surrounding the topic. We can presume they're not telling us everything. But we can try, as Karen indicates, to give them information before they need it. That also means the parent needs to be willing to talk about important matters without requiring that the adolescent actually engage in the conversation. The young person might not be ready to talk about it at that point, but you can assume they hear the words and will think about them.<br/><br/>I really appreciate this forum. It prompted me yesterday to ask my 10-yr-old if she knew what a condom was. She didn't, but wanted to know. I told her, along with the purposes. She asked, "Why would anyone NOT want to get pregnant?"<br/><br/>Good to know that response is in her! So, that led to a good conversation about why waiting to have children is a really good idea, for many reasons. I think the best we can do is try to have a continuing conversation about matters sexual with our children. Its impossible for them not to be influenced by our culture, which means there is embarassment surrounding the topic. We can presume they’re not telling us everything. But we can try, as Karen indicates, to give them information before they need it. That also means the parent needs to be willing to talk about important matters without requiring that the adolescent actually engage in the conversation. The young person might not be ready to talk about it at that point, but you can assume they hear the words and will think about them.

I really appreciate this forum. It prompted me yesterday to ask my 10-yr-old if she knew what a condom was. She didn’t, but wanted to know. I told her, along with the purposes. She asked, “Why would anyone NOT want to get pregnant?”

Good to know that response is in her! So, that led to a good conversation about why waiting to have children is a really good idea, for many reasons.

]]> By: Karen Rayne http://karenrayne.com/2007/03/22/what-parents-know-about-their-teenagers-sex-lives/comment-page-1/#comment-23 Karen Rayne Fri, 23 Mar 2007 17:58:00 +0000 http://karenrayne.com/?p=13#comment-23 Some parents and teenagers do talk about sexual activities on some level. It's not uncommon for teenagers who are dating someone to kiss good-bye in front of their parents. But it is uncommon for teens and their parents to talk about sexual intercourse. Some parents and teenagers do talk about sexual activities on some level. It’s not uncommon for teenagers who are dating someone to kiss good-bye in front of their parents. But it is uncommon for teens and their parents to talk about sexual intercourse.

]]> By: Alice http://karenrayne.com/2007/03/22/what-parents-know-about-their-teenagers-sex-lives/comment-page-1/#comment-22 Alice Fri, 23 Mar 2007 14:02:00 +0000 http://karenrayne.com/?p=13#comment-22 Do most parents and teenagers talk about sex at all, on any level? I started engaging in low level sexual behavior at age 17 and I remember thinking they would kill me if they found out, so talking to them would be stupid. Do most parents and teenagers talk about sex at all, on any level? I started engaging in low level sexual behavior at age 17 and I remember thinking they would kill me if they found out, so talking to them would be stupid.

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